When someone close suddenly disappears, their family clings fiercely to hope—even if the search stretches across decades. A woman who had spent years desperately searching for her younger brother, Tommy, discovered an astonishing lead after 25 years of uncertainty. Ahead of Thanksgiving, a seemingly ordinary detail in an online news story changed their lives forever.
For decades, the sister had carried deep sadness about Tommy’s disappearance in 1999. According to CNN, Tommy had vanished along with his vehicle without leaving any trace. Over the years, she anxiously scoured reports of unidentified remains, fearing the worst. However, her fortunes changed dramatically after coming across an article in USA Today, which featured a hospitalized man whose identity was unknown, as he could neither speak nor communicate effectively.
Recognizing something familiar in the image of the hospitalized man, the sister quickly contacted the Lassen County Sheriff's office. Speaking with Deputy Derek Kennemore, she explained her suspicion that this unidentified patient might indeed be her long-lost brother, referencing the missing person report she'd filed in 1999.
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After her call, Kennemore coordinated with hospital officials and found Tommy’s physical description matched perfectly with that of the patient. The Nor-Cal Alliance for the Missing confirmed through fingerprint analysis that the patient was indeed Tommy, issuing a statement: “An individual was brought to a Los Angeles County hospital and recent fingerprint analysis confirmed his identity as Tommy.” Though Tommy still faced significant medical challenges and remained non-verbal, his identity was now confirmed, leading to an emotional reunion with his family.
“After being missing for 25 years, Tommy, a case close to our hearts, has been found and will soon be reunited with his loving family,” read a moving Facebook post from the county. “Today, we celebrate a reunion 25 years in the making—a moment that brings light to the darkest of times.”
The family’s GoFundMe page, originally set up to support Tommy, overflowed with gratitude and emotional messages. “All this time, I had been looking for unidentified remains. I was delighted to find him alive!” the sister wrote.
Though she lives 600 miles away from Tommy, she has been actively assisting him financially with small transfers and medical expenses. She also explained that Tommy, currently non-verbal, is still learning basic tasks like walking and eating. The GoFundMe campaign has already raised over $11,000, but ongoing support remains vital.
Thanks to one sister's keen observation and relentless hope, a family torn apart by tragedy finally has a chance to rebuild, united once again after a quarter-century apart.
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The one phrase people most want to ban forever—and 20 more that drive us all nuts
If you’ve ever cringed at hearing “It is what it is” or rolled your eyes at someone saying “No offense…” before delivering something totally offensive, you’re definitely not alone. Some expressions are so irritating, so overused, or so grammatically cursed that hearing them once more might just push us over the edge.
We asked our Facebook audience, “ If you could ban one annoying phrase from existence forever, what would it be?” and holy moly, did the floodgates open. Typically, a given question might rack up around 5,000 comments—but this one? Over 14,000. People shared responses that were funny, petty, brutally honest, and occasionally downright poignant. From phrases that try (and fail) to sound wise, to those so overused they've lost all meaning entirely—here are the top contenders folks are completely done with.
The one phrase nearly everyone wants to vanish
By far the most repeated offender was:
Over and over, users cited this as the ultimate non-response. It’s dismissive, it ends conversations, and it offers exactly zero comfort or help.
Another big category? Expressions meant to comfort that end up being painful or insulting. These include:
Many commenters explained that these phrases, while often well-intentioned, feel dismissive in times of grief or hardship.
Grammar gripes and word crimes
Grammar lovers had a lot of feelings. Some of the most-cited “please stop saying this” phrases included:
And let’s not forget the collective rage over “pacifically” when people mean “specifically.”
Words that reveal more than they intend
Several users took issue with phrases that feel passive-aggressive or intellectually lazy, such as:
As user Jacqueline C. put it, “'To be honest...' What does that mean? That you're not honest any other time?”
Phrases tied to racism, sexism, or toxic positivity
A significant number of respondents took aim at harmful or politically charged phrases. Among them:
These comments weren’t just about annoyance—they were about the emotional weight and social impact of language.
James G. didn’t mince words when he wrote: “‘Go back to your country, then’ 🤬. The epitome of racist. I love my country, plus my ancestors did not ASK to be brought here the way they were.”
Corporate speak and empty buzzwords
You knew these were coming.
These phrases sparked a different kind of rage—one reserved for staff meetings and marketing emails.
Iris H. summed it up: “Most corporate speak. Downsizing. Low hanging fruit. Pivot. etc…..” Just say what you mean, please.
Why this resonated so deeply
There’s something unifying about shared irritation. These phrases might seem harmless or routine, but for many people, they’re like verbal paper cuts—tiny annoyances that, over time, sting a lot more than they should.
Whether it’s poor grammar, dismissive condolences, or flat-out hate speech in disguise, we’re collectively craving language that’s thoughtful, clear, and kind.
So the next time you find yourself reaching for one of these expressions, take a beat. Maybe there’s a better way to say what you mean. Or maybe… just don’t say anything at all.
And if you’ve got your own phrase that should be banished from existence? Don’t worry—there’s still time to add to the list.
Got another phrase that needs to go? Drop it in the comments on our original Facebook post.
Bonus: The top five most hated phrases from our poll
Let’s make 2025 the year we finally stop saying all of them.