Being an author comes with many joys, but few match the incredible experience Joseph Fasano recently had on a flight. The American poet and novelist found himself seated next to a passenger who was engrossed in his latest book, "The Swallows of Lunetoo," entirely unaware that the author was sitting just inches away.
Surprised by the surreal encounter, Fasano quickly documented the event on X (formerly Twitter), sharing a photo of the book in the passenger’s hands and asking his followers what he should do next. One follower humorously suggested he whisper, "Is it better than the last one?" into the woman's ear.
I'm thinking of whispering, "Is it better than the last one?"
— Joseph Fasano (@Joseph_Fasano_) February 22, 2023
They just opened it to page 10 so this is going to be an interesting ride.
— Joseph Fasano (@Joseph_Fasano_) February 22, 2023
Eventually, Fasano took the leap and struck up a conversation. He asked the woman if she was enjoying the book, casually mentioning he had read it "about 100 times." The woman didn’t recognize him, but warmly responded by sharing that she was traveling to visit family.
🤣🤣 Definitely hasn't recognized me. Although someone in the airport actually thought I was Milo Ventimiglia, so there's that...
— Joseph Fasano (@Joseph_Fasano_) February 22, 2023
Their conversation flowed naturally, with Fasano later updating his followers on X: "I asked them if they're traveling for work or fun and they said 'just a little trip to see family,' and looked directly at me for a moment and...we're still here."
Users reacted enthusiastically to the charming encounter. One user vividly imagined the scenario, writing, "You watch them read it. They’ve just started it so you can quietly suffer through every sigh, sleepy moment—or conversely every moment they seem gripped by it. Do they put it down to eat, or do they eat holding it in the other hand. You suffer. That’s the story now. For hours."
Another user shared their relatable story: "Ok this is in NO WAY comparable but I made a new Facebook friend and 5 days later she changes her banner picture to a photo of herself in front of a mural I painted. She didn’t know until a mutual friend told her in the comments but I was SO touched."
UPDATE: Joseph Fasano has a *new friend!*
My approach: "Are you enjoying that?"
Her: "I think so. Have you read it?"
Me: "About 100 times."
Her: "What?!"
Me: "Just to make sure everything was right."
(pause)
....and now we're buds
— Joseph Fasano (@Joseph_Fasano_) February 22, 2023
Fasano’s original tweet swiftly went viral, amassing over 2 million views, 20k likes, and nearly 600 retweets. For those unfamiliar, Joseph Fasano is a respected poet and novelist from Goshen, New York. His literary accolades include winning the Cider Press Review Book Award in 2011 for his poetry collection, "Fugue for Other Hands," and receiving critical acclaim for his 2020 novel, "The Dark Heart of Every Wild Thing."
Fasano and his fellow passenger's enjoyable conversation continued well beyond what either of them could have anticipated, turning an ordinary flight into a memorable encounter that resonated widely online.
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The one phrase people most want to ban forever—and 20 more that drive us all nuts
If you’ve ever cringed at hearing “It is what it is” or rolled your eyes at someone saying “No offense…” before delivering something totally offensive, you’re definitely not alone. Some expressions are so irritating, so overused, or so grammatically cursed that hearing them once more might just push us over the edge.
We asked our Facebook audience, “ If you could ban one annoying phrase from existence forever, what would it be?” and holy moly, did the floodgates open. Typically, a given question might rack up around 5,000 comments—but this one? Over 14,000. People shared responses that were funny, petty, brutally honest, and occasionally downright poignant. From phrases that try (and fail) to sound wise, to those so overused they've lost all meaning entirely—here are the top contenders folks are completely done with.
The one phrase nearly everyone wants to vanish
By far the most repeated offender was:
Over and over, users cited this as the ultimate non-response. It’s dismissive, it ends conversations, and it offers exactly zero comfort or help.
Another big category? Expressions meant to comfort that end up being painful or insulting. These include:
Many commenters explained that these phrases, while often well-intentioned, feel dismissive in times of grief or hardship.
Grammar gripes and word crimes
Grammar lovers had a lot of feelings. Some of the most-cited “please stop saying this” phrases included:
And let’s not forget the collective rage over “pacifically” when people mean “specifically.”
Words that reveal more than they intend
Several users took issue with phrases that feel passive-aggressive or intellectually lazy, such as:
As user Jacqueline C. put it, “'To be honest...' What does that mean? That you're not honest any other time?”
Phrases tied to racism, sexism, or toxic positivity
A significant number of respondents took aim at harmful or politically charged phrases. Among them:
These comments weren’t just about annoyance—they were about the emotional weight and social impact of language.
James G. didn’t mince words when he wrote: “‘Go back to your country, then’ 🤬. The epitome of racist. I love my country, plus my ancestors did not ASK to be brought here the way they were.”
Corporate speak and empty buzzwords
You knew these were coming.
These phrases sparked a different kind of rage—one reserved for staff meetings and marketing emails.
Iris H. summed it up: “Most corporate speak. Downsizing. Low hanging fruit. Pivot. etc…..” Just say what you mean, please.
Why this resonated so deeply
There’s something unifying about shared irritation. These phrases might seem harmless or routine, but for many people, they’re like verbal paper cuts—tiny annoyances that, over time, sting a lot more than they should.
Whether it’s poor grammar, dismissive condolences, or flat-out hate speech in disguise, we’re collectively craving language that’s thoughtful, clear, and kind.
So the next time you find yourself reaching for one of these expressions, take a beat. Maybe there’s a better way to say what you mean. Or maybe… just don’t say anything at all.
And if you’ve got your own phrase that should be banished from existence? Don’t worry—there’s still time to add to the list.
Got another phrase that needs to go? Drop it in the comments on our original Facebook post.
Bonus: The top five most hated phrases from our poll
Let’s make 2025 the year we finally stop saying all of them.